Please..help...as soon as possible...

[Mattd43]

Okay...um...im new here...i really need some help...heres my problem. Im 16. Um...i have a girlfriend shes really great and i have ocd so...shes put up with alot. The sweetest girl in the world. Caring. While not true Christian, religious and high moral values. But...okay...um...her past boyfriend...my friend...well...i guess...once she made a mistake. Well...one thats really bothering me. She thought i knew because weve talked about that stuff before but...she told me yesterday after i bugged her. I guess once...she touched...his...um...yeah...no intercourse of any sort. But...yeah. And...i think that hurt worse than any thing ive ever experienced. I went to bed early. Had nightmares. Woke up at 3...after that id wake up like every half an hour. Think a bit. And go back to sleep for a bit. I didn't eat breakfast. And i didn't eat lunch. This happened...last year sometime. And she asked God for forgiveness. She truly repented. And she feels awful. Everytime she thinks about it...she feels sick...wants to die. She regrets it so so much. Im having trouble...forgiving her. I love her...i want to stay with her...but...this...is...i...dont know how. I get physically and mentally sick when i think about it. Its driving me crazy. It all feels like a dream. She's nothing like that...i...dont know what to do...im begging someone...please...help me...please...

[buck jr]

The answer to this dilemma is simple, carrying it out is the hard part. First off, as with any sin committed by another, it is clear that we are to forgive as we are forgiven. At 16 I know how hard it is to stay focused on the true scriptural response to any worldly problems. If you are a Christian and she is not, your first and foremost response should be to teach her the truth, and if she accepts it, and is baptized for remission of her sins, God will remember them no more. So you shouldn't ether. I will pray for you as you say you are dealing with O.C.D. Please be careful that you do not fall for one of satan's traps by allowing yourself to use this label to not feel responsible for your own actions, we see this becoming more and more common. I would recommend that you talk with one of the Elders of the congregation that you attend if you feel that you can not talk with one of your parents, ( I do not know your situation ) but it seems that you need to step back from this a moment and reevaluate the order of priorities that you now have, and ask yourself how should this be handled as a Christian first. I hope and pray that this helps, I do know that heartache hurts more than any physical pain that I have experienced, James.